For those of you in the homeschool world I am sure you have heard of the method of unschooling. For those who haven’t, it is an educational method and philosophy that rejects compulsory school as a primary means for learning. Learning is done through natural life experiences such as play, personal interests, curiosity, household responsibilities, travel, books, and social interaction.
While I still appreciate a guided education I also have found this method of unschooling very beneficial for my children.
There is a certain quality that children develop when they are allowed a time for self discovery.
When my children play and use their imaginations they are dreaming, inventing, and developing skills needed to see more than what is already in existence. They are learning to be visionaries. They have no limits to tell them something isn’t possible.
A childhood is an important part of someones life. We make time for our children to experience the simpleness of a childhood. Even if that means they do not take piano lessons, join a dance team, and play baseball.
As parents, we want to give our children the world. Often we are told to do this we must give them all of these classes and lessons to give them the advantage in life. But maybe, just maybe, not putting them in everything offered might be the advantage.
Rhett and I allow our babies to pick one activity at a time for their extracurricular activity outside of their schoolwork. This is because we want them to have time to develop who they are truly intended to be without our hands hovered on top telling them who that is. Giving our children free time is important to us. We want them to have a chance at discovering themselves outside of our personal opinions. Most children don’t experience this freedom of discovering oneself until college nowadays and by then their time is limited to decide. This is very overwhelming. If we allow the gradual freedom throughout childhood maybe it will make the process a little easier and provide more potential.
We also value the importance of family. Spending time around the dinner table and having quiet evenings at home allow for relationships. If everyone is constantly at different places there is little time for bonding. One of the most important things we can give our children is a relationship with their parents and siblings.
In all this, let us remember the next time our child begs us to join their latest athletic interest or social activity, that we can have peace in telling them no for whatever the reason wether it be financial limits, not enough time, or other obligations. Maybe, just maybe, it might be what’s best for them.