Women everywhere fill many shoes. We do so with as much grace as possible. But even the best of us with the best marriages make mistakes. We act out of instinct instead of thoughtful consideration. I want to acknowledge a fault majority of women including myself forget to apologize for. Maybe with awareness we can empower our men instead of tearing them down.
I am writing this letter to apologize when I find it difficult to transition out of my mother role into my wife role. As a mother I give 100% to our children and I embrace my responsibilities. I am fully committed and this is one of the many reasons you love me.
But when all of me is invested in this one role I am lost to all of my other commitments, including you.
I’m sorry for the times when I bark orders instead of asking politely. I’m sorry for the times when I complain if you do something differently. I’m sorry for the looks of disappointment I give when we are out in public and you do something I think others will not approve of. I’m sorry for second guessing the decisions you make. I’m sorry for doubting your intentions.
As much as my might heart might be in the right place I have “mothered” you.
I have treated you as if you are to honor and submit to my authority. We are a team and I do not wish to change you. I apologize when I do not make you feel as such.
I promise to remember I was your wife before I was their mother. I will value you. I will stand by you regardless of what others might think. I will learn from your way instead of enforcing mine. I will support your decisions. I will remember the joy you bring me and smile in your presence. I will take time to show my appreciation for you. I will show compassion when you are weak instead of rubbing in your weakness. I will dream for you when you have lost hope. I will believe when you don’t. I will speak for you and not against you. I will be your wife, not your mother.